When relationships come to an end, there is so much emotional pain that it may seem impossible to find a way to ease the suffering. If you’re the one ending the relationship, you may be plagued by guilt and remorse; if you’re the one being left, you’re faced with the misery of rejection. The end of a relationship is not always a failure. Sometimes all the love in the world is not enough to save something. In these cases, it is not a matter of fault from either person. Some things cannot be, it's as simple as that. Ashly Lorenzana “.
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This article was co-authored. Elvina Lui is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in relationship counseling based in the San Francisco Bay Area. Elvina received her Masters in Counseling from Western Seminary in 2007 and trained under the Asian Family Institute in San Francisco and the New Life Community Services in Santa Cruz.
She has over 13 years of counseling experience and is trained in the harm reduction model.There are cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. Ending a relationship is never easy. Though many people believe otherwise, ending a relationship can be just as emotionally exhausting as getting dumped. Before making a decision to end a relationship, you should always weigh the reasons for walking out. Once you are sure, though, it's important to remember that your soon-to-be ex was once your love.
You should be honest without being cruel, and compassionate without giving the person hope. With a little tact and thoughtfulness, you can end the relationship and minimize the potential emotional damage.
Be careful, it may hurt you too.
It can be really unnerving when you're in a relationship and you're not sure if your partner is just in a super grumpy mood, or they actually are trying to drop. And while the good news is that nine times out of 10, this scenario is just you having an insecure week, or your partner having an, or possibly the two combined, with a sour cherry on top in the form of some sort of recent big fight or other drama — sometimes, when things feel off, they are legit off and it's time to give your relationship some serious attention.Maybe your partner has been skulking around with a scowl on their face, and you have no idea why. Or maybe they are way quicker to anger lately, or they don't seem to be very present when you're around, or they just seem and you're not sure why. All of these may seem like hints that they're on their way out, but sometimes the mind can play tricks, and blow small things way out of proportion. So here are 12 signs that, courtesy of relationship experts. 'When a person stops having the time or desire to be with you, then you know that your relationship is on life support system, and that you might just have to be the one who has the guts to pull the plug,' Cindi Sansone-Braff, author of, tells Bustle.
It feels awful to have someone hanging around now and then who isn't really available and is always looking for an out. 'If you keep hearing how he or she is too busy with work, family, friends and other obligations to spend time with you,' that sucks, and if they're adding, 'we'll get together soon,' they're just giving you lip service, she says. 'Just tell this person that this isn't what you signed on for,' she adds., $12,And be real about why you're peacing out. 'Let them know that you'll be moving on, and if you should still be available when their life lightens up, then you might give this thing another try,' she says. But whatever you do, don't just sit there. 'Keep in mind, that when someone is really into you, they put you on the top of the list, and make time for you,' Sansone-Braff says. 'Nothing stands in the way: They'd walk five miles through a snowstorm to see you, because that's how much they miss you.'
If that's just not happening, that's OK — find someone who does feel that way about you. They're A Million Miles Away. Not a full-on ghost. More of some signs of a paranormal event, or the possibility of one soon.
'A clue that someone wants to end the relationship is something that I actually suggest my patients do if they want to end a toxic friendship or casual dating relationship,' BetterHelp and tells Bustle. Obviously this isn't a good idea in a serious LTR, but if you're in something that has just been going on for a couple of months and this starts happening, be aware that this might be what is going on.' The idea comes from a psychological term called 'successive approximations,' Martinez says. 'By this, I have the person answer calls and texts less frequently, be less and less available, until things just naturally drizzle out.'
It's not always a good way to go, but it's an OK method if the person might be explosive with directness. If this is going on, call a spade a spade, she says: 'If you suddenly realize that you are on the receiving end of this behavior, you might want to start to be honest with yourself that this relationship is on the way out.' They Don't Ask About Your Day. A healthy relationship is all about helping each other talk through days both hard and good. 'Lack of interest in what is going on with you is a big sign that someone is about to end a relationship,' Rob Alex, who created and with his wife, tells Bustle. 'If all of the sudden the person you are in a relationship with stops caring about what's going on at your work, or things that you enjoy doing, then a flag might be raised,' he says.
It's important to just discuss one another's lives, and if that's not happening, it could be a sign.' Interest in each other is one thing that makes relationships special, and when a person stops taking interest in what you are doing and stops sharing what they are doing, the relationship could be headed south,' he says. There's A Persistent Feeling Of Dread. 'Saturday night comes and goes with no contact,' New York–based and author April Masini tells Bustle. Sorcery game. 'Unless you’re living on the moon, Saturday night is date night.'
Well, to be fair — not everyone goes out on Saturdays, and different things work for different people. But if you're early in a relationship and you don't go out at all over the weekend, then things may be a bit wobbly. Similarly, if you're in an LTR and you haven't been going out much, you might want to look into why that is so. If you haven't heard a peep from your partner all week, see what's up.
When You Do Date, It's A Group Thing. 'One clue that they want to break up would be that they are less patient and more prone to argue,' Chris Armstrong tells Bustle. A couple that are kind to each other and understanding when someone does something weird can sidestep little issues with ease, but the opposite is true when someone wants out.
'When Fred and Marie were doing great, a stressful situation or a minor annoyance would lead to them finding their patient side and saying and doing things that kept the relationship moving in a positive direction,' he says. 'That is because Fred and Marie want to sustain the relationship. If Fred wanted to break up with Marie, he will be short with her, indifferent to resolution, and argumentative.'
When nothing is riding on it, why bother? They're Defensive. 'They’ve stopped communicating and get defensive when you point it out,' Danielle Sepulveres, and author of, tells Bustle. The defensiveness here is key — though plenty of people can be less communicative for a whole host of reasons, if someone is still into the relationship, they'll want to change their behavior when such a thing is pointed out., $15,'If someone truly didn’t realize that they’re behavior has changed, they would be willing to discuss your concerns without immediately refuting you,' Sepulveres says. 'Abstaining from having a conversation or dismissing your feelings is not a good sign when you want to address a shift you’ve sensed in the relationship.' They're Ghosting.
Look, there's no way around it. If you're being full-on ghosted, so be it. 'One major red flag that a person wants to end a relationship is they begin to ghost you,' founder and CEO of Amanda Rose tells Bustle. 'Instead of facing reality or potential conflict head-on, they begin to cut the ties of communication.'
No, no, no, nooooo! 'Communication becomes vague or even non-existent,' she says.
'People who ghost like to avoid difficult conversations and will gradually disappear emotionally and physically.' If you can't get a hold of your partner, no matter how hard you try, they are ghosting you. It's not a nice thing to do, and especially awful if you've been dating for a while, but it is a very clear and sure sign that your partner wants to end the relationship.For more Bustle content, check out our podcast.Images: Fotolia; (12).